building yourself to a better person

What Can You Offer As A Lady?

What exactly are you bringing to the table?

Sex? Perfectly sculpted brows?
A shape to die for?
A full head of Brazilian hair?
A penchant for the latest songs and dance steps? A group of empty and vacuous brained friends?

All those are awesome but what exactly is he going to find when he knocks on your head?
All the episodes of Zee World, Telemundo, Tinsel and Africa Magic all recorded in perfect sequence?
Empire nko?
Every soundtrack, every character dissected to a tee?
Do you know anything about the New World Order? Neo-colonialism?

Your own home politics? What’s happening in Ghana, The Gambia, Gabon even in Nigeria?
Do you even know something about anything remotely connected to intelligent discourse?
When last did you read a book?
No not Hints. Not Genevieve. Not Arise. A book. You know that sort that has printed pages in between covers and no pictures just words?
Oh they give you headache?

What exactly will bring a man your way and keep him?
Do you have a source of income?
A skill?
Financial intelligence or you are a walking ATM seeker?
Do you always ask ask ask and not work work work?
Do you know how to cook?
Yes cook. Cook for yourself at least not because you want to keep a man but because you ought to take better care of what you feed your body?

Do you know the way to the kitchen or are you a Mr Biggs, Dominoes or KFC shareholder. Never mind the bigger swankier restaurants.
Tell me what exactly are you bringing to the table?
There are times he would need a real woman to share his worries with and your miniskirts and long lashes won’t bring anything to that table. Most of our ladies tend to spend so much on appearances trying to look sexy as hell forgetting he will not be horny forever! There would be days when he would need your managerial qualities, but you’re only used to being lavish; SLAY MAMA!

Don’t spend all your days making up and turning up anywhere a DJ takes his speakers to.
Build yourself. Learn and practice things that can add value to your life ; that is the real sexy!
We need responsible mothers for our unborn children, not just SLAY QUEENS.

BUILD YOURSELF TO BE STRONG FOR YOURSELF, YOUR PARENTS, SOCIETY AND NOT JUST FOR THE MAN. AND IF YOU END UP ALONE, YOU WON’T FALL APART, YOU WOULD RAISE YOUR HEAD HIGH AND SLAY ON YOUR OWN TERMS.